It’s “where are you now?” month at Ask a Manager, and all December I’m running updates from people who had their letters here answered in the past.
Remember the letter about the person who kept talking on the phone while using the toilet in the shared office bathroom? Here’s the update.
I took one part of your advice, and then added my own (admittedly passive aggressive) part as well.
After my letter was published, I realized how awful and pointed an anonymous note would seem. I consulted with other colleagues and with someone who works in a different office on the same floor. I was definitely not alone in this observation. We didn’t wind up with a shared resolution, so I decided to take matters into my own hands. A day or two later, I found myself in there again with Toilet Talker on the phone, and I got really embarrassingly passive-aggressive and started flushing the toilet over and over, and she literally laughed and said “haha, I’m in the bathroom” and I loudly yelled “no fucking talking on the phone in the bathroom.” Not my finest hour. She was there for at least another minute as I got out of the stall, washed my hands, etc. — she was still on the phone.
But I’ve only run into the issue again once. It was literally last week — and our VIP fancy gazillion dollar company RAN OUT TOILET PAPER IN OUR BUILDING. I thought it was just my stall, but then I heard Toilet Talker, on the phone — talking to a client about how she was in the bathroom (while she was using the toilet) and the whole building was out of toilet paper, then she flushed the toilet, opened the stall, and walked right out of the bathroom without washing her hands. TODAY, I saw that her office has been cleared out and the word is that she’s joining a different suite of this same company. So … Toilet Talker Turmoil: Terminated. 🙂